Welcome to A Quirky Twist’s college advice for sophomores! Today’s topic is on friends vs. acquaintances and how that looks for many people in college. However these aren’t facts and rules that you have to follow or that are true for everyone, these are just thoughts I’ve had from my years in school. Social life is a big part of college and it can look different for everybody. With that being said I have 4 thoughts on friends and acquaintances during your sophomore year.
- WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE
I like to think of friends as people who if they’re free will do anything with you. They’ll get food with you, study, hangout etc., they don’t need a specific reason to be around you. On the other hand I like to think of acquaintances as people you see occasionally, wave hi to when you them, or go to specific places with like the gym or dinner. I think, as we grow older the term friend is used less often than it was when we were younger. That’s not to say that acquaintances can’t become friends or vice versa, it’s just that a friend tends to have a deeper relationship with you than most people you know.
- EVERYONE DOESN’T NECESSARILY HAVE A TON OF FRIENDS
This is still something I have to tell myself often just because you see someone with people all the time doesn’t mean they have dozens of friends. You could be seeing them with the same friends or just walking from class in the same direction as someone else they sit beside in the class. Just as there are a lot of people walking around campus together there are a lot of people on their own too. Try and remember it’s the quality of your friends and not the quantity.
- IT’S OK IF A FRIENDSHIP WEAKENS
It’s fine if you’re not as close to your freshman hallmates as you once were. In college it takes effort to keep up with a friendship and it neither of you try it will fizzle out. Sometimes friendships do fade if you are both constantly busy and not taking the same classes. If a friendship is ending naturally it’s ok to let it run its course, you can still speak to them even if you’re not as close as you once were.
- IT’S OK TO DO STUFF BY YOURSELF
One thing I realized late in my freshman year is that it’s ok to do social things by yourself. It’s perfectly ok to go to the dining hall, join an intramural team, or study by yourself. If your friends and acquaintances are lousy you can always go do something by yourself. It may seem like everyone is constantly being social, and that’s not necessarily true. Even the most extroverted people in the world need time alone by themselves.
I hope this will help you when you start your second year in the fall. Another college advice post will be up next Tuesday! If you missed last week’s post on campus involvement you can find it here. If you liked this post leave a comment down below!