Hi and welcome to A Quirky Twist’s last college advice for freshmen! Today’s post is on a topic that I think is very important for all incoming freshmen and that is to be you. A lot of people see college as a new stage in life to experience new people, places, and things and a chance to reinvent themselves; to an extent it is but at the same time you need to be true to yourself in order to have a better time. Now I have 4 tips for how to be yourself and still change and grow your freshmen year.
- IT’S OK TO “REINVENT” YOURSELF
What I mean by that is this, yes college can be a really amazing four years of your life, and it’s fine to want to change. However you shouldn’t completely change your personality just to fit in somewhere, because on a college campus there are so many different ways to fit in. You don’t need to do anything you’re uncomfortable with just to “fit in” because your real friends will understand and in college it is really easy to walk away from bad friendships. On the other if you’ve always wanted to do something like play an instrument, or wear different clothes, or eat exotic food then do it because you’re still being an authentic version of yourself. All I’m saying is don’t go to college and come home and be a completely different person no one recognizes; unless that’s the person you always were inside, if that’s not the case just be yourself you’ll end up much happier in the end.
2. STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE
In college you should do this while still being true to your personality. If someone is asking you to do something illegal, or something opposite of your morals, or highly uncomfortable then obviously don’t do it. But if someone is asking you to go to an exotic restaurant, or to visit a museum, or go shopping somewhere you’ve never been go you don’t know if you’ll end up finding something you love. I think everyone should take a step out of their comfort zone in college, especially if it helps them discover a new interest. Doing something you’ve never done before can lead you to making new friends or memories, which are the things that help make your college experience great.
3. IT’S PERFECTLY FINE TO SAY NO
On the same lines of stepping out of your comfort zone, it’s perfectly ok to say no. So maybe you don’t like to party but you still want to be friends with people who do, then tell them you like hanging out with them but not partying. Or maybe you do like to go to parties but don’t like some of the things happening there, you don’t have to partake you can just enjoy the atmosphere. Maybe you go to a really big football school but hate watching it, it’s ok to tell people no when they ask you to come. At the same time however don’t say no to everything or you’ll find yourself not having as much fun as you could be.
4. ENJOY YOURSELF
I know the saying goes college is “the best four years of your life”, and I agree college should be some of the best years of your life but not the best. In the same way you don’t want to “peak” in high school you shouldn’t want to peak in college, or that will make for a boring 50+ years once you graduate. College should be a time of making really good memories. You shouldn’t strive to make these the best years of your life and compare everything after to this moment, because life is about stages and moments and college is just one stage of many. So make as many memories as you can, it’s only for four years. Go ahead and order cookies at 2 am, or wake up at 5 to watch the sunrise, or party on a Saturday night, take time to explore your town, stay up late laughing with friends, and go on adventures to new places. Bottom line college is a time for growth, learning, and experiences so enjoy yourself.
Thank you so much for reading my last installment of college freshmen advice. In case you missed it you can read about all of my topics here, or click which topic appeals to you: food, friends, roommate, time management, money management, campus involvement, the summer before, breaks, family, studying, packing, getting around campus, advising & office hours, and you time. I hope to have another college related series coming out soon which will be on Fridays so be on the lookout for that. I hope you had as much fun reading this series as I had writing it. And if you ever need advice while in school I hope these posts help you out. If you know anyone who will be going to college in the fall, or is already there share this post with them. Thank you so much for stopping by feel free to leave a comment below!
PS In case you missed it you can find last week’s college advice post here!