Hi and welcome to A Quirky Twist’s college advice for freshmen! Today’s topic is on another subject that’s in the forefront of every college freshmen’s mind and that is friends. For many people it’s overwhelming coming to a new place where they know few or no one and have to try and make friends. So today I have advice for how to approach your social life in the fall. Again these are just suggestions and not rules you need to follow, nor are these guaranteed to make you lots of friends but they can help you make some. With that being said I have 5 tips for how to make friends in college.
- IT’S OK IF YOU DON’T HAVE LOTS OF FRIENDS
I think one of the biggest misconceptions about college from a freshmen viewpoint is that every one has millions of friends within a week, and there’s no way you can break into their groups. Most of the time that’s not true, and a lot of those people are more than likely acquaintances than really close friends. Even if someone really does make two-dozen friends in a week that doesn’t matter. College is completely different from high school and no one cares if you have a hundred friends or two. So it’s perfectly ok if at the end of fall semester or the year you only have five friends.
2. YOU DON’T HAVE TO STAY FRIENDS IF YOU DON’T WANT TO
That’s the beauty of college unlike high school you’re not forced to be around the same people all the time, so if you find out you and a person don’t fit as friends you don’t have to stay friends. Unlike high school you just met your friends this year, so you don’t have any of the “we’ve been friends forever” mindset when it comes to cutting off bad friendships. Also depending on your school it will be entirely too large for any drama to start over you not being friends with someone anymore. And even if drama starts there are thousands or hundreds of new friends for you to choose from. So if you hangout with someone the first few months and realize they do things you don’t like or you don’t have common interests you don’t have to stay friends.
3. YOU HAVE TO MAKE AN EFFORT
Again unlike high school you probably won’t have every class with them and they may or may not live in your dorm. In order to keep your friends in college, you need to make more of an effort to hangout with them. You can’t just sit beside them in class or eat lunch together everyday because they’re around, in college you and your friends’ schedules you will more than likely not match up. You need to text your friend to get dinner, or lunch together on the weekends, or invite them over to your friend. In college it’s also ok to invite yourself over to your friends, I don’t mean show up unannounced but text them to see if they’re busy and if you can come over. You can even ask them to study with you, in college you need to try and hangout with your friends once a week or it might be harder keep the connection and stay friends.
4. GET INVOLVED
One of the easiest ways to make friends in college is to get involved on campus. Getting involved in something on campus allows you to make your campus smaller and the chance for you making friends higher. Being involved on campus also allows you to help build your resume and network with future members of your professional field. Getting involved can also introduce you to new experiences and events on campus that you didn’t know existed.
5. ACQUAINTANCES ARE GOOD TOO
Not everyone you meet in college has to be a super close friend you tell all your secrets too. Nor do they have to be a good friend that you like to hangout with often. It’s ok if your only interaction with a person is walking from class and back to your dorm or vice versa. You can even just have lunch with someone once a week or only talk when you go to a fitness class together. You can even have people you talk to in class and follow on social media but never hangout outside of class. Having acquaintances can liven up your social life, and give you someone to hangout with when your close friends are busy.
Those are all of the tips I have for friends in college, I hope this helps ease some of the future class of 2020’s worries about college. If you know anyone who will be going to college in the fall, share this post with them. And if you want to hear more about my college advice check back next Tuesday. Thank you so much for stopping by feel free to leave a comment below!
PS In case you missed it you can find last week’s college advice post here!